I wrote a post a few days ago about vulnerability. In it, I gave a slight aside to my recent obsession with like’s and followers. Maybe obsession is too strong a word. But it’s taken more precedence over my mind than I like.
I write to better myself. Morning pages were my first writing discipline. Then an interview with Seth Godin convinced me to start blogging daily. Writing helps me think, and it’s fun when my words get read too.
Until my focus is too much on having words read. Then it gets toxic and we definitely don’t want that.
So I read a book called You Are a Writer (So Start Acting Like One) by Jeff Goins. Jeff levels with you about what it takes to be a writer. And one of the things it takes, is writing when you don’t have an audience, and maybe people even dislike your work.
And paradoxically, something I’ve found is if people enjoy your work enough to hit you with likes, it can be more damaging to writing your truth than if no one reads you – if you don’t manage it correctly.
So recently I’ve been doing something very simple, very easily actionable.
Write a post. Upload it on your site. And then – here’s the crucial step – don’t check your notifications until you sit down to write your next post.
For me, that’s the next day. I’ve done this the past few days and it’s like fresh air. I’d felt pressure getting to me, the desire to write for audience rather than writing for myself.
Not only does this step almost negate the pressure because I’m not constantly thinking about what the public response is – and therefore, also have more mental space for post ideas to jump into – but it’s motivation to write my next post. I don’t get to see what the response was to my last post until I commit to writing another.
I don’t know need to be checking my phone every half an hour to see if another person liked my post.
I don’t need to know how many people have visited my site in the past thirty-seven and a quarter minutes. Just write what is the truth right now, and that’s it. Irrespective of public opinion.
And it’s kind of fun when you check your notifications the next day, before you write another post, and you’ve got them all sitting there for you.
But that’s the egotistical side of me; I’m human, and we’re all fallible.
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